Escape Plan When Leaving Domestic Violence #31dbc

Post with a purpose. You gotta see the look I get when I tell people I blog about Domestic Violence. It’s a look of shock and surprise, then when I share a little of my life they understand my passion.

I think we have enough blogs about how to look, dress, shop and what’s popular in attire. My prayer is people will understand the importance of this issue. My posts this week show you abuse happens in ALL homes. Please view Domestic Violence in The Church

The post today is a smart escape plan via thehotline.org please view for other help. Below you’ll find a safety plan to set up when you’re ready to escape your situation:

Identify your partner’s use and level of force so that you can assess danger to you and your children before it occurs.
Try to avoid an abusive situation by leaving.
Identify safe areas of the house where there are no weapons and there are ways to escape. If arguments occur, try to move to those areas.
Don’t run to where the children are, as your partner may hurt them as well.
If violence is unavoidable, make yourself a small target; dive into a corner and curl up into a ball with your face protected and arms around each side of your head, fingers entwined.
If possible, have a phone accessible at all times and know what numbers to call for help. Know where the nearest pay phone is located. Know the phone number to your local battered women’s shelter. Don’t be afraid to call the police.
Let trusted friends and neighbors know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal for when you need help.
Teach your children how to get help. Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner. Plan a code word to signal to them that they should get help or leave the house.
Tell your children that violence is never right, even when someone they love is being violent. Tell them that neither you, nor they, are at fault or are the cause of the violence, and that when anyone is being violent, it is important to stay safe.
Practice how to get out safely. Practice with your children.
Plan for what you will do if your children tell your partner of your plan or if your partner otherwise finds out about your plan.
Keep weapons like guns and knives locked away and as inaccessible as possible.
Make a habit of backing the car into the driveway and keeping it fueled. Keep the driver’s door unlocked and others locked — for a quick escape.
Try not to wear scarves or long jewelry that could be used to strangle you.
Create several plausible reasons for leaving the house at different times of the day or night.
Call a domestic violence hotline periodically to assess your options and get a supportive understanding ear.

I hope this is helpful for those still in the battle. Today I’ll continue to pray for victims and survivors alike.

Love, peace and hugs,

Lady K-:)

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5 thoughts on “Escape Plan When Leaving Domestic Violence #31dbc

  1. Part of my original safety plan involved texting or calling a trusted person when I would go on errands. I’m still being stalked. I text where I am going, when I arrive, when I leave, and when I get back home. I also have alarms on my windows and doors.

    Realize that the abuser checks your computer history. Use a public library or use private browsing. Don’t save your safety plan on your computer. Write it and hide it. Leave a copy with a trusted friend.

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    1. Those are all great points!!! When I left my abuser it was rough we had a child together. I will keep you in my prayers. I know the pain and agony you struggle with. Keep the faith and God will keep you and protect you.

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