Today I leaned that forgiveness and forgiving bring a special kind of healing. If you read my post often you will read about my son who passed away at the age of 3. It’s been 6 1/2 years since I last spoke to his father.
We both had a lot of hurt and allowed other to tell us how we should feel about each other. There was a wall of anger, hatred and mixed emotions on both sides. Today after he came to my job to handle a personal matter we talked to each other.
After I got off of work we went on to have a four hour conversation. We talked a lot about how we felt, why we felt that way and expressing sympathy to one another.
The time apart was needed for both of us to grow. We both had to mature, neither one of us had ever loss a child before. This was a new kind of pain for both of us.
At the time our son passed away I knew God, the peace I had he wasn’t able to have. He didn’t understand why I didn’t hate life. And I thought he was crazy to hate life. For the most part w came from different walks of life. God had already performed miracles for me.
I was thankful for the time we went without any contact. That time allowed God to work on both of our hearts and minds. God was able to remove all the ill feelings we had for each other.
Tonight I want to share a poem with you.
by Chuck Smoot
Jesus said to turn the other cheek
He also said to forgive 7 times 70
Easy for Him to say
He was God
Or at least the son of God
How do I get to the place
Where I forgive those
Who disrespect me and malign me
Those who could care less about my feelings
Yet I still care about theirs
Why is forgiveness so hard
Why does it take so much out of you
Why is it easier to hold on to a grudge
Rather than to let it go
Am I doing something wrong
If it is true that we are to love others
As we love ourselves
And we stay mad at ourselves
For our misdeeds and misdoing
Is it realistic to easily forgive someone
If you extend the olive branch
Of friendship and kindness and forgiveness
And it is not returned
Should you really keep trying
Even if you feel it is a lost cause
Or will persistence win the day
With the honesty and sincerity of words
Be recognized and acknowledged
Followed by a reasonable attempt
To let bygones be bygones
Is this one of the famous battles
Between head and heart
With both having opposing views
But the same hold on your psyche
Neither winning, neither losing
Sometimes I wonder
If our lack of ability to forgive
Is truly more rooted in our
Bruised ego and hurt feelings
Perhaps the pain we feel is comforting
If I were to release my anger and my pain
Only to be knocked again
Who becomes the bigger fool
Me for trying
Or them for doing
I wish that such matters were as easy
As a game of tic-tac-toe
Or perhaps it is
Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose
Neither happens if you don’t take a chance
So I resolve to forgive
To be the bigger and better person
Give of myself as I would want others
To give to me
And perhaps this time everyone will win.
I hope you enjoyed that I also want to share with you what God says about forgiving:
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:14, 15 NIV)
I’m sure we can all use a little forgiving in life. Tonight surrender the hurt and anger. It’s a great feeling!!!
Peace, love an hugs,