Homosexual And Domestic Violence

God shows us love unlike ANY other. He came in the form of man to die for ALL sins, not some. This post MIGHT be one that offends some, and I’m ok with that. I think saving lives is about more than a lifestyle it’s about the love God tells us to have for one another.

Tonight as I wrote who all No More Blows will stand for the LGBT Community came to mind. The homosexual community might be the hardest hit when it comes to partner violence as Domestic Violence is called.

No where in the book does it say, “Marriage” has to be the determining factor. How are we protecting heterosexual couples NOT married BUT leave the LGBT Community to be violated.

Lets look at a few things, let me clear the air I’m writing from my heart NOT a manual. I also don’t believe in standing for something after its hurt me in some kind of way. I hope you can put your religious thoughts to the side long enough to understand and feel the post.

Have you ever talked to someone in the homosexual community? If you’re like me you ask the questions others WILL NOT ask. Often times when you ask, why they live this lifestyle most have been hurt, molested or neglected. Then you have those who say they were born that way.

The last one is NOT my main concern and that’s another post. Lets talk bout those who run from one type of abuse to another. Lets talk about those who have hidden the pain looking for love.

Their search for love is NO different. They have a void that MUST be filled. And I don’t think they should have to endure ABUSE of ANY kind on this journey.

Tonight I want to pray for the LGBT Community and its many forms of Domestic Violence. Rape is rape and a hit is a hit NO matter the sexual preference.

When a man molest a little boy it’s still molestation. When a man abuses a little boy physically it’s still abuse. Just like a man raping a man is rape. A woman hitting another woman is abuse.

Tonight join No More Blows as we take a stand against ALL forms of Domestic Violence.

I would also like to leave a scripture with you this evening:

This is My commandment: that you love one another [just] as I have loved you. No one has greater love [no one has shown stronger affection] than to lay down (give up) his own life for his friends. (John 15:12, 13 AMP)

Tonight lets show LOVE just as The Father does!

Love, Peace and Hugs

Lady K -:)

16 and Mothering Part 1

Where do we draw the lines? I’m outraged with shows the “Show off” parenting teens. It’s time for US to take a stand. The US is every adult who wants better for future generations to come. And every teen who feels you deserve better.

Last night ABC 20/20 did a story on a young lady from Texas she is 16 and pregnant. Her parents upset for good reason wanted her to abort the baby. She turns to her boyfriends family who I believe took the wrong route. Lets explore this little journey.

First let me tell you I’ve been in Reagan’s shoes the only difference is I was 14 and pregnant already a mother when I turned 16. My mother like her parents upset at the fact I was pregnant. The first thing my mother said was, “Not for long.” Needless to say my daughter is now 17 and I’m 32.

My mothers plans to abort the baby folded when I woke up sick one morning. The appointment was made. The trip was planned we were going to Detroit to have this done. I was already 5 months pregnant. I had NO clue. I was a freshman in High School just finished volleyball season.

The guys mother took me to have the test done after having a conversation with her mother. I still remember like yesterday laying on the ultrasound table at Elizabeth New Life Center. This baby was breathing, moving and very real.

Shock, shame, guilt and the thought of my mother consumed my mind really quick. I wasn’t proud in any way BUT I had to lay in the bed I made.

My mother made we stay with a cousin for a little while I went to school daily. Not telling a soul at this point I thought this baby wouldn’t be inside of me for long. I reached to turn the TV on while in homeroom. The teacher noticed my stomach and pulled me in the hallway. She ask, “are you pregnant?” I just held my head down nothing to say. The form in my stomach said it all.

I thought we were the only two who knew until I went to biology class. Not sure what the teacher and I got into it about. Next thing I know she was putting me out the class. Then yells out “She’ll be taking care of me and my baby because I was going to be on welfare.” Angry, embarrassed and upset. I disrespected her and cussed her out. Lets just say I thank God for deliverance.

That history was given so readers would know I’m NOT coming down on Reagan in any way. I want her to be successful in life. I want the baby to be healthy, happy and bring joy out of this situation. I also need her to understand her parents were angry, hurt and upset.

To her parents I’m thankful she was able to get away for that time. I hate she was manipulated by adults who over reacted just like you did. Both parties show what happens when your actions are controlled by your emotions. Lack of reasonable choices lead to this teen taking her parents to court. Allowing their private laundry to be played out nationally.

I live in Dayton, Ohio and the Tweets came from all around the world as millions watched the show. I read some of the comments. Laughed at some and thought others should be deleted.

I’m sure this is all overwhelming for Reagan. I do applaud her mother for letting her come back. I know some parents who would have walked away from the child. I don’t care what the judge says Reagan needs parents and support right now.

Part two of this post will talk about Pastor kids forced to marry when they get pregnant and Reality TV gone too far. As Reagan made reference to the show Teen Moms. Until then

Love, Peace and Hugs

Lady K!!

Honor Thy Father

As I sit thinking Fathers Day is this weekend. This being the first year in my 32 years I’ll ever send my Father a gift. As I search for cards I can’t find one to express where we’ve grown to.

I didn’t grow up a “Daddy’s Girl.” I was a “Momma’s Girl” rotten to the core. My Father served in the US Military and had other children even married several times. I only know these things because he’s shared them with me.

It wasn’t until 2007 I was lead to my father via an older sibling. Only to find out I was the second oldest of 5! I was my mothers oldest child and his second oldest. Kind of cool to find out about these other siblings. The great part about DNA is we all have features of each other! No DNA test needed, “You are the father!”

It’s my hope his post will allow Father child relationships to be restored and repaired. Prayer is the key and allowing God to mend your broken heart.

As an adult I was over the fact my Father wasn’t there ANY of my childhood. He left my Mother to raise two children alone. She had hard times BUT she never allowed us to know it. As most parents don’t share the struggle with the children.

Lets move to the adult years of my life and relationship with my Father. I’ll never forget when my son passed. I just knew he would be here. He told me he purchased a plane ticket and would be coming in from Colorado. I thought it pretty sad this is the way you have to meet your grandson. As the day approached he never arrived. He had some story about his absence as always.

I was hurt about to bury my only son the day before my birthday and he pulls a stunt like this. My mother was here so I was ok, my sister who I grew up with was here and that’s all that mattered to me. In my heart that little girl wanted her Daddy. This man she fell in love with over the phone. Yet he was a NO SHOW.

As time went on we talked about how his NO SHOW made my feel. And as God forgives me I had to forgive him again for his lack of love and support.

As the time goes we continue this telephone love affair. It was something about hearing the voice of a man I’ve never met BUT felt much connection with. I would call more than he would call me.

Here we go 2 1/2 years later another tragedy strikes my mother is diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. He called daily to check on her. He would also check to see how we were doing. After all she is the mother of two of his children.

One week before his 60th Birthday my mother passed away. I wasn’t expecting him to come for the funeral. His wife already had a big bash planned to celebrate him turning 60. I wasn’t mad and understood completely.

What I didn’t understand is how he couldn’t pick up the phone to check on us. In my book it’s not that much partying in the world. I called to give him a piece of my mind. I was nice and respectful. I didn’t say one cuss word and got my point across.

The next time we talked I asked him to get a check up to make sure all was well with his health. His check up discovered he had stage one prostate cancer. I wasn’t to worried he was concerned and overwhelmed.

Now it’s time to kick in all I had ever learned in church about forgiveness and praying for those who have hurt you. My father would call EVERY night so we could pray.

That was an honor to me. It showed that he saw enough of Jesus in me to pray and keep him covered. He knew I had enough faith by our phone conversations and my willingness to forgive him over and over again. God had given my strength to endure this race.

I had mixed emotions. Wondering why God didn’t save my mother BUT saved my father. My father had some growing to do and some healing. He had to make a few things right here in earth.

As Fathers Day comes maybe things are NOT the best between you and your dad for whatever reason. Tonight let me give you one reason to make it right. The Cross should be enough! We’re forgiven daily as often as we repent.

Maybe you feel like he’s older he should know better. Remember God has called is to be Salt & Light. If your Father needed prayer would you be the first or last person to call?

God tells us to honor our parents the scripture doesn’t say “perfect parents.” As well all make mistakes on the journey of parenthood! Life is a circle remember what goes around comes around!

This Fathers Day make a special point to Honor Thy Father! If forgiveness needs to take place forgive and learn to love.

As always I want to leave a verse with you;
CHILDREN, OBEY your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother–this is the first commandment with a promise– That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth. Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4 AMP)

Love, peace and hugs

Lady K

Faith = Work

Today as I sit thinking about where would we be if we did what God called us to. Have you ever heard God say move? Do this or do that? Then your flesh rises up asking how?

I’ve been there, was there for a long time! It was 2 years ago when God first spoke No More Blows over my life. I started writing a book about my life using four different women. I was excited 26 pages over 10,000 words into the book the passion to write it died quickly.

A few days later I received an email looking for submissions for an Anthology. I sat that same day typed 8 pages. Sent it to Penda (my writing coach and publisher) who did the editing and poof reading. Waited months to hear “Good News.” That news never came. I was broken feeling like I wasted my time. They didn’t pick my writing.

Then God was able to tell me what to do with my writing. After sharing the news with my Pastor Jamila Z. Lyons she encouraged me to start my own blog. I did just that!!

Shortly after I started collecting submissions for an Anthology God needed me to do!!! I almost wanted to ask why an Anthology? Before I could form it. I had the answer already. Domestic Violence comes in different forms while I’ve experienced MOST of them God needs to get the glory.

When the task was given to me, I thought of a million reason why I couldn’t do it. Like most of us money is at the top of the list. I started with, “Lord I don’t have.” Only to be reminded He has it all.

I started the blog from a work computer, all of my post come from my cellphone. Then the non profit came from a donation from someone who believes in the cause. God will make a way.

What are you willing to do? Are you willing to do as He tells you to? Are you willing to keep it on the down low until its time to release it. I had to hide this from MOST of my family.

Not because I was scared of what they would say. I had to guard my ear gates. I didn’t want to be put in a position to doubt God at all.

Tonight here is my challenge to you! What have you been holding back? Maybe it’s not to write a book or start a non profit. Maybe God is calling you to open a business. My task for you is to write it down! The Bible tells us to write “the vision an make it plain!”

Tonight I want you to hit the “Faith” button put on your best shoes and walk it out!! Last but not least let me leave this verse with you;

For as the human body apart from the spirit is lifeless, so faith apart from [its] works of obedience is also dead. (James 2:26 AMP)

Peace, hugs and love

Lady K

PS, The hard work and sacrifice will pay off!!! Seeing people happy should make you happy!

Kia -:)

Thank You!!!

Good evening!!!! I trust all is going well with you! This is simply a Thank-You post!! We appreciate you subscribing to the blog. We also appreciate those of you who reblog post as well!

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We love you so much!!

Peace, hugs and love

Lady K -:)

Your Support is Needed!!!

Good evening!!! Tonight I am going to ask for the support of the readers. As most of you have read Team No More Blows is working on an Anthology. Below you will find a link so you can support a cause very much needed. Any amount helps it all adds up! Please do your part helping us take a stand against Domestic Violence!!! The site is secure and has been used to help raise funds for a variety of causes.

Thanks in advance for your support!!!!

http://www.gofundme.com/2apatk