My Heart Is Heavy…

I’m not even sure how to feel this Friday evening. Yesterday I was informed that another young lady and her male friend was shot to death in the early hours of the morning. She was gunned down by a former boyfriend who recently moved out according to people close to her. Why am I hurt?

Not because I knew her BUT because this is a passion of mine. I have a desire to help young ladies and men leave these situations with dignity and respect. Above both of those with life. I don’t even know the young lady, the fact she is yet another victim of Domestic Violence brings sorrow to my heart.

Looking at the fact 12 years ago this could have very well been me and my daughter. Thanks be unto God neither one of us was injured physically. The mental damage of ANY domestic situation takes time to get over. Enough of my situation. Let me explain why this situation hurts me so.

It’s NOT until the victims death those close to her/ him want to speak out. It’s then you hear people saying, ” I always felt something was wrong.” The sad part is when the victim is gone he/she can’t hear your concern.

Often while the person is living he/she hears more judgment about being dumb for staying. And the famous, ” if it was me I would.” Until you’re in a situation you never know how or what you will do. Tonight we add another victim to list of others taken tragically all because he/she wanted out. When do we take a stand to finally say NoMoreBlows???

Well you may NOT believe in the cause but I do. We stand for gay rights, abortion laws and picket lines if the union doesn’t agree with us. It’s time out for victims falling prey to the predator who doesn’t understand it’s over.

Tonight I want to leave a few signs to watch out for ;
1. He/she wants to dictate how and where you spend your time.
2. He/she checks the mileage of the automobile when you return from places.
3. He/she shows up unannounced at places you hang out at.
4. He/ she feels all your spare time needs to be with him/her.
5. When ask for sex if you say “NO” he/she forces you to perform ANY sexual act.
6. He/she begins to control how and where you spend your money at.
7. If you have a friend ALWAYS wearing clothes out of season. Chances are he/she is hiding something under the clothes.
8. If you have a friend wearing sunglasses on cloudy gloomy days.
9. You have a friend who suddenly stops spending time with you. Don’t always assume he/she is, “acting brand new.”

Please learn the signs and take note. Never ask your friend in front of the person you think is abusing him/her. Tonight I want you to survey some of your friends. Mostly the ones you cut off because he/she has a new Boo. Look at the signs above. Warming always comes before destruction. Tonight don’t allow one of your friend to be another. “I always knew something was wrong.” Change the game allow him/her to hear your concern while he/she is still here with us.

Let me leave you with this NEVER pass judgement on ANY thing they share with you. You don’t know what you would do in the situation. If you’ve lives it already share your wisdom NOT your opinion. Meaning tell how you left the person who beat you. Chances are the first hit will NEVER be the last unless its a fatal blow.

Today take a stand with me in saying, NoMoreBlows all around the world. May God bless each and every one of you. Let me leave this Bible verse with you tonight, For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it is good or evil. (Ecclesiastes 12:14 AMP)

God will bring EVERY action into judgement. Sending love, peace and cyber hugs to all!

Respectfully yours,

Special K,



Jezebel’s Spirit Is Unisex

Why is it when a woman walks in the church half naked she is often called Jezebel? Why are we lead to believe she was JUST a sex symbol of the past? Jezebel was a woman who worshipped a pagan fertility god Baal, thought to many to control rain and harvest.

Lets look at some of her ways. Jezebel was a religious woman who spread idolatry throughout Israel. She was a woman of great arrogance, cunning and known to murder. A woman determined to make people believe in a god who was not real.

After looking at it that way I think it’s fair to say we have Jezebel’s all throughout the church. And I’m not talking about the one running around half naked sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry. Lets talk about the Jezebel of deception.

Week after week we see bumper stickers, T shirts and vanity plates that say we love God. What god are you lifting on high? The god of too much debt? The god of The Joneses? Or the god of I want to impress folks who don’t even like me? Either way you look at it it’s all deception. Being and advertising something you don’t believe in.

Look at it this was when you drive the car plates reading, “Romans 8:28” where do you drive it to? Kind of hard pulling into the club with Jesus plates. I had vanity plates and would hate for my mother to drive my car to the place she shot darts at. I never wanted people to see my car there.

Your actions in your WWJD T shirt, do they make God proud? That middle finger you flipped when the slow driver pulled in front of you. Would God have flipped the bird?

What if your bumper sticker reads, “following me can lead you to Heaven.” You pull the car into the parking lot of a strip club? Really Heaven bound? Well with some repentance that could still happen.

Yes those examples are a little extreme but still reality. I used examples like that because we always use those sleeping around and call them Jezebel. We don’t deal with the spirit as it is. Anyone man or woman is capable of carrying this spirit inside of them. Please read on..

Men with the Jezebel the king of this next one. How often are you out having unprotected sex, the young lady gets pregnant NOW you want her to abort the baby. Murder is murder. Am I saying its always the men NOT at all some women use abortion as a form of birth control. This example was used to show both men and women have the spirit inside of them. After all you are what you sleep with.

Arrogance is at a all time high. Money seems to make some people degrade the next just to get a dollar. We step on toes, lie and backstab the next to make people believe something that’s NOT true. We have people denying the power of God acting like we in the natural hold more power than God. Not just any god but the God who rescued Daniel out of the Lions Den. The same God who rescued Jonah from the belly of a whale!

Unless you have done either one of those you have NO natural healing power. It’s what’s lives in you that allows you to be used be God. I guess we can call this the Jezebel of the pulpit.

The one going around spreading religious deception. Doing more harm than good to the kingdom. The one doing any and everything in the name of I need my bills paid. It’s time out for what we have allowed to take place in the church.

Jezebel is running the church, teaching Sunday School, speaking in tongues, giving visions not of God and laying on hands on the sick. And we wonder why we have yet to see signs, wonders and miracles going forth in the body.

What Spirit are you sitting under week after week? Are you allowing a man/woman to use people’s personal issues for his/her lack of study? Let me ask you this question if you did an awful job week after week, is your employer going to keep you? Most of you said, “No!” Then why do we allow our souls to be treated any kind of way?

Today take a look at what the Bible says those who walk in the Spirt should look like: But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [that can bring a charge]. And those who belong to Christ Jesus (the Messiah) have crucified the flesh (the godless human nature) with its passions and appetites and desires. (Galatians 5:22-24 AMP)

Anything other than that is NOT of God. Today check your own life as well what do you have in common with Jezebel? After all the Bible tells us to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling.

I’m sure you have thinking to do just as I did when I studied Jezebel and all she carried with her. You’re never to far from God that’s He can’t deliver you!

Respectfully yours,

Lady K

XXXXX “hugs”

Dear Florida Professor

Howdy!!! First let me start by thanking God I didn’t post this 6 hours ago. I was sitting in the doctors office, Fox News was on I heard one of the most ignorant things ever. A Professor from Florida accused the people of Newtown, CT of “staging the death of the victims of the school shooting.”

My jaws dropped in disbelief as I tried to listen to this ignorance being spread across the country. As if the families haven’t been through enough. I must say I was embarrassed and I don’t even know this man. All I know is my personal struggle with gossip and slander after the death of a child. Not just any death but a child murdered by an adult unable to control his feelings and emotions.

The rage boiled inside of me as I heard these allegations. I was about to go in on this man, who obviously didn’t care about who he hurt with his heartless comment. I’m learning more and more to be lead by the Holy Spirit. These are the verse that speak to this situation.

Shun youthful lusts and flee from them, and aim at and pursue righteousness (all that is virtuous and good, right living, conformity to the will of God in thought, word, and deed); [and aim at and pursue] faith, love, [and] peace (harmony and concord with others) in fellowship with all [Christians], who call upon the Lord out of a pure heart. But refuse (shut your mind against, have nothing to do with) trifling (ill-informed, unedifying, stupid) controversies over ignorant questionings, for you know that they foster strife and breed quarrels. And the servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome (fighting and contending). Instead, he must be kindly to everyone and mild-tempered [preserving the bond of peace]; he must be a skilled and suitable teacher, patient and forbearing and willing to suffer wrong. (2 Timothy 2:22-24 AMP)

Am I saying I am ok with his comment? Not the case at all. My heart hurts for the families of the children and adults. I pray often for them. I ask God to comfort them and shower his healing power down on them. Not just the parents but the community as a whole.

Let me explain how I feel about mourning and grieving the loss of ANY family member. It should be a private matter. There is NO rule we have to grieve and mourn in public. Until you’ve experienced loss of this kind, you should always keep your opinion to yourself and off social networks. Let me ask you three questions:
1. Who said you have to do an interview after a tragic death?
2. Who said I have to act a fool because someone I love was taken tragically?
3. If you really cared should you be gossiping like this?

Let me be the first to tell you the interview is recorded and they will show and edit it to say what they want it to say. Acting a fool doesn’t mean I will miss the deceased any more or less. Last but not least its the insensitive comments like this that shut people out of the publics eye.

To the families of Newtown, you have people around the works praying for you. Don’t allow the ignorance of someone exercising his First Amendment Right to set you back. Please continue to walk in the healing God has set out for you. I want to leave this with you tonight. Tonight I want you to stand on these verses.

The face of the Lord is against those who do evil, to cut off the remembrance of them from the earth. When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their distress and troubles. The Lord is close to those who are of a broken heart and saves such as are crushed with sorrow for sin and are humbly and thoroughly penitent. (Psalm 34:16-18 AMP)

God is near allow Him to wrap you in his arms. I’m speaking from personal experience. Praying for healing, peace and comfort. Mr. Professor I pray for you heart. Please think about your comments and how they may add more pain.

Much Love,

Special K

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Act Like Human Think Like A Donkey…

Good day, I’m not one who has to always have animals BUT I believe they all teach us lessons. Lets look at the Donkey, God used one in the Old Testament and according to this story sounds like the donkey prevailed again.

In the book of Numbers God used a donkey when Baalam had NO idea.

The donkey saw the Angel of the Lord standing in the way with his sword drawn in his hand, and the donkey turned out of the way and went into the field. And Balaam struck the donkey to turn him into the way. (Numbers 22:23 AMP) please read whole chapter for yourself!

The donkey protected him the whole ride while Balaam abused his protection. He would hit the donkey when he went the wrong way. How many times have we abused the very thing or person God sent to protect us from danger. Honestly I don’t have enough body parts to count.

A few years ago a farmers donkey wondered into a hole. The donkey was crying out for help. The farmer came, confused about how to get the donkey out of the hole. The farmer thought and after thinking of the age of the donkey he was ready to let the donkey die. He started throwing dirt on the donkey.

Not only the farmer his friends came with shovels to help. The donkey looking up death in face had a plan that would shock all of them. As they each threw dirt on him he would shake a move using each pile as a stepping tool. Eventually they placed enough dirt in the hole the donkey was at the top and free!

I shared both of these stories for two reasons the first taught us to ask for wisdom about who God has sent to protect us. The next taught us NO matter how much dirt is thrown on us, NO matter how many people want to destroy us and NO matter how far in the valley God always makes a way of escape.

Today think about the things going on around you. What has you down? What areas do you feel defeated in? Are you going to allow a donkey to have more faith than you?

Today I want to leave this verse with you;
Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; reverently fear and worship the Lord and turn [entirely] away from evil. (Proverbs 3:5-7 AMP)

Learn to trust more in God than your flesh in ALL areas! I want to challenge you to quote what you believe God for. Proverbs tells us life and death are in the power of the tongue!

Much Love,
Special K 🙂

XXXXXXX “hugs”


Bye Bye Forever….

Happy New Year to all of you!!! I’m super excited about taking care of he business God has set before me. Working on a few projects, plenty of info to come!!! I’m expecting God to open doors and send healing in the area of Domestic Violence like NEVER before.

Well tonight I want to talk about all they things you said bye to for the New Year! Did you feel the need to send emails, text or call saying, ” I’m cool on you in 2013?” How did you cut folks off? Well I didn’t do any of the above . I did get a new phone and transferred limited contact information.

Last year I also got rid of Facebook, one of the best things I could have done. I did start a Twitter account. Please feel free to follow me @ImKRich. I have a lot of fun even though I was anti-twitter at first. It grew on me now I love it.

Those were two changes I made and didn’t feel the need to let anyone know. When I left MySpace I informed folks I was leaving . I even when so far as giving a date of my last post. Not thinking the same folks would add me on Facebook. They did which didn’t help my problem at all .

Who do you need to cut off? Are you giving to much information before making your next move? Often times we as women give way too much too soon. Not everyone can go with you to the next level. No need to announce when and where it will be. Our announcement might NOT be what God wanted.

I’ve been working on a project and God wasn’t able to make things happen until I allowed Him to say bye to some people, placed and things for me. Your bye doesn’t always have to be verbal. Often just your absence is enough. Out of sight out of mind is what some people say.

God can do more when you are in a new environment . Today I want you to think about people , places and things you keep chasing. You have NO reason why you’re NOT moving ahead in life.

My reason for being STILL was bitterness. I was angry and mad at a lot of people . I felt like I had 4 eyes 2 in the front and 2 in the back. The sad part was they eyes in the back had the most power. They had more power over my thoughts and heart. Allowing me to relive pain God needed me to let go.

It wasn’t until I realized those eyes gave the enemy more shine than God. The longer you allow anger, bitterness , rage and hatred to set in the more time you give the enemy. Does he deserve the time? Who has more power and can heal ALL pain. God is still able NO matter how many times you’ve allowed the enemy trump the power of God.

Since you’re reading this God has work for you to do. Think about the times you just needed someone to come talk to you. Today I want to leave a verse with you as always;
Another also said, I will follow You, Lord, and become Your disciple and side with Your party; but let me first say good-bye to those at my home. Jesus said to him, No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back [to the things behind] is fit for the kingdom of God. (Luke 9:61, 62 AMP)

As you read that think about what is keeping you from doing all God has called you to do . Is the trick of the enemy worth you walking in disobedience? Not really God has women depending on you to walk in healing an restoration so He can use you!

Tonight, I want you to pray and ask God to say bye to some places, people and things for you. Trust Him enough to believe He will do what’s right for you. Letting go brings healing and allows God to use you for his glory!


Special K:-)