Healing is always an option.

Bloglets how are you? I am well had a busy day. Took my youngest daughter to attend a birthday party where all the kids dressed up. Reminded me of how we as women dress up pain.
For YEARS and I did that so well. I smiled so much it was almost permanent. Behind that smile was anger, rage, bitterness,  stress and the list could go on and on. I’m sure you have a list if things you cover up when you DRESS UP. I was able to hide behind nice jewels, designer clothes, shoes and bags. I was a dolled up train wreck.
My hidden emotions came from being molested as a child, then the abusive relationships I entered. I had to find a way to hide the pain so I would DRESS UP. I felt like people wouldn’t notice my pain since I was all DRESSED UP. It wasn’t until I understood the power of GODS healing , I then realized I didn’t have to DRESS UP my pain. I found out He wanted to heal me and set me free. Bondage and healing are both choices WE make. I chose bondage for years, mostly because of my ignorance too the healing power in the cross. I am NOT saying this happens over night. I want to share these steps with you.
First, you need to be honest with GOD about why you hurt. Please He is omnipresent; meaning all seeing. He knows what you need just waiting on you to surrender IT. Secondly, stop the pity party, don’t keep repeating the same hurt. There will come a time you can share your story and NOT cry a river. I am NOT saying anything is wrong with crying, too much pity will leave you in the valley. Last but NOT least if all your friends enjoy the miserable you, FIND SOME NEW FRIENDS! In this is case it’s ok to act brand new, after GOD heals you, you will be brand new! You don’t want to surround yourself around people who cater to the pity. I have a good friend who says, “Buck up!” That’s the crowd you need to surround yourself with. People who understand the power of GODS healing will assist in the healing not pity.
Before you lay down, I want you to speak to God about the areas you need healing in. Remember with God honesty is the best policy. Also remember He is gentle, He will NOT force himself in. He knocks you have to let Him in. Tonight I will be praying for you victims who need to make choice that MUST be made. I want to leave this verse with you.
1 Peter 2:24 NIV

“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”

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Why Share????

Great Day Bloglets!
I am having a good day as I hope you are too. I was sitting in the park, eating my lunch and looking over notes from group at The Market Place Movement! Pastor Jamila Lyons teaches a wonderful class on Thursday nights! Ready  War was the topic and Domestic Violence is my passion. War and violence are like cousins. She used 1 John 2:16 as one if the verses of the three PRIDE is the one I still struggle with. Follow me….

I have known for a long time what God wanted me to do but PRIDE would NOT allow. I was worried about what people would say, think ans feel about me. I am slowly getting to a place of, not really caring what others think. My only mission is pleasing God in all I do.
I have this passion burning in me for women of all races and walks of life. I have made enough bad choices for all of us. Not PROUD however it has made me the woman I am today. Some people feel we share our testimonies to brag or boast NOT the case.
Sharing a testimony is like FIRE PREVENTION, you teach others and the choices there after are up to them. In life we ALL have a testimony, something GOD has delivered you from. Yours may NOT be like mine however it still has the power to help someone else. Let me make a little deposit today;
Revelation 12:11 AMP

And they have overcome (conquered) him by means of the blood of the Lamb and by the utterance of their testimony, for they did not love  and  cling to life even when faced with death [holding their lives cheap till they had to die for their witnessing].
I pray you find ONE reason to share your testimony today! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX:-)

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Keep the change.

Bloglets! Sorry its been a few days. I didn’t forget about y’all and I didn’t stop praying for you! Let me leave something with you. There was a time I only dated men with money of some form. And most of them didn’t have a 9-5. Not proud at all, I told you I plan to be honest with you in my post. The first guy to abuse me was able to buy me anything I needed and wanted. However that road lead to pure torment in the end. Thinking that fast money is good money almost left me dead. The other day while reading the book of Proverbs this verse jumped out at me. Listen warning always comes before destruction. Proverbs 10:16 NIV The wages of the righteous is life, but the earnings of the wicked are sin and death. Listen my dear I am NOT saying it has NOT been rough. I am learning GOD is the best provider. If He does it for me He will do it for you! Remember the goal is one survivor at a time! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO!

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My Life My Passion……

Welcome, I’m a 31 year old domestic violence survivor. This blog has been a long time coming, and God has made this possible. After years of being pushed by Penda James a very close friend more like a sister then eventually getting advice from Pastor Jamila Lyons from The Market Place Movement in Dayton, Ohio this blog is now possible. Two months ago my Pastor challenged us to find a verse or verses and preach your testimony. The two that did me well were Isaiah 62, in this Chapter God talks about the vindication, and he also says,” His delight is in me.” The one scripture that is most quoted is Romans 8:28; and we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose (NIV). Yes after the healing your abuse will work out for your good!

I have survived sexual, verbal and physical abuse. My posts will come from the heart. I will share my personal experience with each issue and also discuss how I overcame each one. Some post might be a little graphic however it’s reality and if you can watch those, “Reality Shows,” you can sure read about something that effect 1in4 women in the United States. Count the number of cyber friends you have, the number of ladies you see daily or just your family. One out of four of them are being abused in some way.

Let me give you brief snapshop back in time when abuse started for me. My first case of abuse was when six years old; a neighborhood who then was a teenager would make me perform sexual acts in a tree house in the back of their house. The next case I was ten years old, my mother trusted her childhood friend’s son to keep both me and my sister on weekends. These are just a few of the sexual abuse encounters I had outside of a relationship.

It wasn’t until I was seventeen years old when the abusive relationships started. This point in my life I didn’t have self-esteem, already the mother of a two year old child and barley making it in school. My boyfriend would abuse me in all areas, until he could longer get to me. This man has taught me what it means to forgive and let go. The next person was the very last guy I ever ALLOWED to abuse me. He was also the father of my son, and felt like he owned me sexually. I will go more into depth about these men in later posts.

I refuse to make all the post sad and depressing. I will talk about the abuse and the ways to help overcome it. For years I knew I would one day be sharing my story with other young ladies. I have two books half way written. It wasn’t until I ask God how this would happen the blog came about.

I wasn’t thinking about a blog, until God showed me two things; the blog will build you a group of followers who are interested in my writing and help with those looking for a way out. The blog will be faith based, without GOD we are and will never make it out of the victim phase.

The blog serves two main purposes; to bring awareness to an issue that is usually only talked about when someone famous is battered, and secondly to bring healing to the lives of the victims and their families. Our goal is one SURVIVOR at a time! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX to all.

Thanks for taking time out to subscribe to my blog and please share with your friends. Pray for the predator and prey daily! With GOD we will OVERCOME!

This might make you share with others…………

  • Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
  • Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family.
  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
  • Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually.
  • Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.
  • Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.
  • Ninety-two percent of women surveyed listed reducing domestic violence and sexual assault as their top concern.
  • Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone—the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.
  • Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police for help.
  • The costs of intimate partner violence in the US alone exceed $5.8 billion per year: $4.1 billion are for direct medical and health care services, while productivity losses account for nearly $1.8 billion.
  • Men who as children witnessed their parents’ domestic violence were twice as likely to abuse their own wives than sons of nonviolent parents.

Statistics can be located on domesticviolencestatistics.org

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Songs that helped me in the storms.

Kirk Franklin; Hold me now and Blessing in the Storm.
Marvin Sapp the entire Thirsty album.
Fred Hammond, Show me Your Face.
I will post different songs nightly. Allow the words to comfort your Spirit! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX! Praying for victims nightly. God PLEASE send a healing for the predator and prey.

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Crying is good for the soul

Bloglets, how are you today? My day has been good. This topic is fitting for today, today my son would have turned nine years old. I have shed PLENTY of tears and sleepless nights. I must admit it had been hard HOWEVER GOD is able and willing. Tonight I want you to cry and realize God sees your pain. Remember He does NOT slumber or sleep. He is all seeing and all knowing. He sees your pain and wants YOU to give it too Him. Remember He heals all wounds and pain. Tonight hopefully you have started your journal already, if NOT please find a piece of paper and detox. As usual I want to leave a verse for you to ponder on.
Psalm 56:8 MSG

You’ve kept track of my every toss and turn through the sleepless nights, Each tear entered in your ledger, each ache written in your book.
Yes God loves you so much He does all of the above. Remember the goal is one survivor at a time! XOXOXOXOXOXOXO! Plenty as you soak up this verse:-)

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